Keys to Effective Communication in Marriage by Pastor Faith Oyedepo

For you to communicate effectively, you need to first
understand what communication is. That is why we shall
be discussing the foundation of effective communication,
this week.
What is Communication? Communication can be defined as
the exchange of conversation, ideas and feelings between
two or more people. Communication is meant to be two-
sided and stimulating. In marriage, it is meant to be a
medium of sharing thoughts, feelings, ideas, etc, between a
man and his wife, thereby keeping your relationship going.
To be able to keep a free flow of communication with your
spouse and other members of your household, you must
first of all develop a good flow of communication with God,
your Creator. The Word of God says: For every house is
builded by some man; but he that built all things is God
(Hebrews 3:4). This Scripture gave us a clear picture that
the true Builder of a successful marriage is God. Therefore,
you must be able to communicate effectively with the
builder of all things, so you can have all it takes to build a
free flow communication line between you and your spouse,
and others around you.
It is very important for you to know that God is the ultimate
Builder of families and destinies. That is the reason most
couples lack effective communication in their marriage. It
will do you good, when you allow the communication line
between you and God to be open all the time. Learn to rub
minds with God; as you do so, His great mind will rub off
on your little mind and make it sharper in effective
communication with others.
How Do I Communicate Effectively with God? The following
are ways through which you can communicate effectively
with God:
A life of Prayer: A life of prayer is one of the major ways of
communicating with God. Prayer is simply the art of
communing with God. Prayer involves you talking to God,
and God talking to you. It is a two-way purposeful
conversation with God. The Word of God says: Be careful
for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication
with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto
God (Philippians 4:6). This clearly shows that through the
medium of prayer, your request can be made known to God,
and you can expect answers from Him.
For you to be able to communicate with God effectively in
prayer, you need to first of all become His child. Salvation
is the only key to effective communication with God
otherwise, your prayer will be noise to God. Without a free
flow of communication with God, every other
communication will not be a smooth one. The Word of God
says: Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your
mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it
may minister grace unto the hearers (Ephesians 4:29).
A life of Thanksgiving, Praise and Worship: If you are
addicted to a life of thanksgiving, praise and worship to
God, it will definitely reflect in your everyday life with your
spouse and family members. The Word of God says: …
Teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and
hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your
hearts to the Lord (Colossians 3:16).
To be thankful is to be praiseful, to be praiseful is to be
joyful, to be joyful is to be ‘God-full.’ God’s Word says: …O
thou that inhabitest the praises of Israel (Psalm 22:3). Just
as fish cannot survive outside water, God cannot survive
outside praise. Accusations, murmuring and complaining
are signs of ingratitude to God, and can lead to destruction
(1 Corinthians 10:10).
Therefore, in all situations, remember that God is always
right! He is always working in your favour and for your
good. A grateful attitude is the secret!
As earlier mentioned, you need to surrender your life to
Christ, in order to effectively communicate with God, which
is the foundation for effective communication in marriage.
If you are set for this new birth experience, you can say
this prayer of faith:
Dear Lord, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me
of my sins. Cleanse me with Your precious Blood. Deliver
me from sin and Satan, to serve the Living God. I accept
You as my Lord and Saviour. Now I know I am born again!
Congratulations! Till I come your way again next week, call
or write, and share your testimonies with me through:
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